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SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hey y'all, welcome to Jessica's podcast. I'm Jay. This is Katina. How y'all doing? We in the building. This is episode 19. 19, Jay. 19.

SPEAKER_02 0:17

Oh my god. This is incredible.

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Incredible. Amazing. I love the emphasis because it's it's it's necessary. Just necessary. Yes, like this is so amazing. Yo. I'm so grateful. Something that I realized with some um other podcasts, like we've only been doing this since November of last year.

SPEAKER_02 0:40

And we are already hitting 19 uh episodes. There's other podcasts that are out here, and they don't even drop as much content as we do.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

Baby, we're in there. We're in your algorithms, y'all. We are we all in there. So we get so okay. Just disclosure, disclaimer. When you see just cuz come across your social media, it's okay. Just love it and just keep going. Right. Because we're gonna post again in probably three minutes. We sure are, and it's okay, right? But just love it. You if you share it, we love that too. Right. If you don't share, it's cool, it's fine. But please engage. Can you leave a comment? Can you say, girl, what you said was blah blah blah blah? Right. Or I don't agree with that, or shall I do better? Whatever. We do not care. We just want to see you guys engage. And we have talked about this. We are definitely going to do more lives. We are. Okay. Oh because baby, let me tell y'all something.

SPEAKER_02 1:44

Jay lives for lives. Let me tell you something.

SPEAKER_01 1:47

I want y'all to connect, get on and engage. Yes, it is important. Like Facebook, TikTok, lives, we can do some Instagram lives or whatever. Because I'm really going over there like that, but I need to do better. Yes. Like, engage with us. Let's talk about these things, okay? And when this comes out, y'all, it's gonna be Monday.

SPEAKER_02 2:08

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 2:11

And we so when I okay, when I get on there and I do the lives, right? Castina be there, but she's just be in the comments because one of us gotta be able to man the comments too in case somebody missed something. Right. But I talk about the latest episode and I break it down and we listen to it and we stop it and we discuss it. And so dope. Yeah, this is like your time to get in there and like get your opinion and like we talk about it. Sometimes questions are posed. There's dialogue that's going on in the comments.

SPEAKER_02 2:46

Oh, Tina is good.

SPEAKER_01 2:49

Yeah, and Tina be in the comments and you know, be making sure that we, if it's something that we need to highlight and talk about or whatever, because we basically gonna highlight and talk about whatever you say. We're gonna pin it and we're gonna talk and all that. You can bring people up on the live. Yeah, bring people up on the live to get their perspective and talk about it too. So, like, it's our whole vibe, y'all. Like a whole vibe. Like, we are committed to this. Like, this is our ministry. We're committed to this. Like, let's go. Administrative is does not look the way it used to look, right? Like X amount of years ago. Okay. Like, this is real. We need streets. Come on. We need streets and these airways and these byways. Okay. So like girls. Yes, like let's get into it. Let's get it done. Let's do what we came to do. Right. Okay. And so, yeah, like we we want you to be involved. And then also this week, um, so not this week when this drops out, but the following Monday, which is gonna be the 23rd, when we drop at midnight on the 23rd, we're also gonna be live in Atlanta on the 23rd, um, on Atlanta Live at 7 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. So, like the 23rd is like a big day, y'all. Y'all gotta rock with us. Come on, it's gonna be on W A T C T B57. Okay, so to find it, to see where to watch, to do all that stuff, get on them socials, y'all. I'm telling you, that's where all the action is. Get on the socials, right, Tina?

SPEAKER_02 4:28

Yes, girl, yes, girl. You put it all out there, you put it all out there. So, yeah. That's being the level of excitement is going to be insane.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

And baby, let me tell you, our day one since day one. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Baby, come through. Okay, come through because we promised you, and we are serious, that being a day one since day one is real. We got a whole group and everything. So if you don't know nothing about the day one since day one group, you need to get in that group on Facebook, ASAP Rocky, okay? Very, very quickly. Like, all right, so yeah. Tina? Yeah, here I come.

SPEAKER_02 5:07

Here we come.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

Here I come. Here I come, here I come. If you had a birthday, if you had a birthday, if you had a birthday, happy birthday to you, happy, happy, happy birthday to you. Uh straight like that. If you had a birthday, happy birthday to you. God bless you. We are happy that you saw another year. We are grateful that you are here and you rocking with us. And baby, that you are in expectation for everything that God got in store for you this year. Okay. Bless the people. Period. Period. We ain't getting this by ourselves. We're getting it together. Come on, come on. She blesses the people today.

SPEAKER_02 5:48

Uh oh, y'all, y'all know she's about to be on fire today. I can't wait to see what she has to say.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

Y'all, I'm sick of Tina. I'm sick of Tina already because she done got started. All right, Nancy, since you look, since she wanted to try and you know come in like this. What's your move, boo? What's your what's your what's your move? See, that's beat up.

SPEAKER_02 6:09

That's beat up.

SPEAKER_01 6:10

I've been doing the move first for the past couple. And it's so amazing. Keep going.

SPEAKER_02 6:16

Okay, so look, this is my mood for the day. So I woke up like this.

SPEAKER_01 6:24

I wish y'all could see her.

SPEAKER_02 6:27

I wish y'all could see her. Just wait until the videos start rolling. Oh my gosh. Oh, I don't know. Some stuff we're gonna have to cut.

SPEAKER_01 6:35

Uh-uh, uh-uh. We're gonna be live and full set. Let's get it.

SPEAKER_02 6:38

But for sure though, like this. Okay, so um, usually when we do spring forward one hour and we lose the hour of sleep, a lot of people have to adjust, right?

SPEAKER_01 6:49

Um, and I'm the same way. I have to adjust. I was just making jokes with one of my clients. Uh I was telling them, I was like, dang, by the time I get used to it, it's you know, we lose an hour. I mean, we we end up going forward or we go backwards or opposite, whatever. And he was like, Yeah, he was like, so my body is having a hard time adjusting. So, anyhow, but I woke up this morning feeling adjusted, even though this season is new with the um spring forward, the one hour, um losing the hour of sleep. I still woke up feeling adjusted. I laid down last night, I went to bed early, which is not my usual thing. Thank you, girl. I hope you hear it in my voice. Adjusted. Adjusted. I'm here for that. Well, Tina, I'm on the island. Oh girl. Pig one. We were talking to our friend Adrian. Yes, pig one. We're talking to our friend Adrian Day, he took me all the way to Florida beaches. Like I'm on St. Pete's Island right um um beach right now. Yeah, yeah. Okay, with that window, yeah, girl, that's not you. That baby pie the white sand, honey. Oh, Jesus. So if I couldn't hit my island, then I'm gonna be on that beach because that beach is like like that. But anyway, y'all, no, I feel good, I feel relaxed, I feel amazing, I feel ready for spring. In my mind, spring is already here. I had a whole debate about it, and I was wrong, but it don't matter. Like, spring is to me, spring is here and in full effect, and I'm with Tina. Let's bring forward, let's get this thing done. Yeah, jump jumping, jumping, bumping. Okay, y'all. So before we go to your favorite, my favorite, the dog's favorite, everybody's favorite, we gotta put some shoutouts out there, okay? Yes, okay. Yes, no baby. Tina's gonna start it off. So the first shout-out I'm gonna give, and I hope that I'm saying your name right, but Deja, I think her name was Deja. Um, Deja Bojangles. Home girl, I told you I was gonna shout you out. You know, I don't lie, I try not to lie. Um, but I told you I was gonna shout you out. I hope that you're listening in. I appreciate your awesome, wonderful, dope service on that particular day. Because usually when I roll through um that particular establishment, it's waiting forever and all this different stuff, but like you were in full, heavy, high spirits. So I appreciate you. All right, and then there's also tape five on Huffman Mill. Yeah, went to get my um oil change, got that good service, y'all, and it was quick, fast, in a hurry. Gotta shout out um Preston and Steven. Is that I believe that's his name, Steven? You know, Steven, don't you? Tina. That my brother is the area manager for that one. Stop. Cordero, yes, he is the area manager for that, and my nephew is a manager um there as well. That's what's up. I didn't even know it. Yes, Ayo, little Ayo, yes. I did not know it. Shout out to y'all because when I tell you that they took care of us, they took care of us. Period. And you know, you when you pull up over there, you don't even have to get out of the car. Yeah. Oh, but get this. They hand you a bottle of water and I was like, what is this? This is nice. Yay, yeah, look at it. Period. Uh, look at you, brother. You got some people doing that 33. That is awesome. Oh my god, Tina, that's amazing. Well, we shout out y'all. Check it out. Keep doing what you do, baby. And if you, honey, are ever on her familiar, go to tape five and check them out.

SPEAKER_02 10:37

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 10:38

Period. Stamp exclamation mark in there.

SPEAKER_02 10:41

Amen.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

All right, y'all. Here we come. We driving and we rolling down the road and we got to go to W W Y D. Your favorite, my favorite, our favorite, everybody's favorite. It's the dog's favorite. The dog's favorite. All right. Wwy D. God, look, this is where you get the opportunity to email us justcause 80s at gmail.com. DM us on all of our socials because we're on all of them. Jess Cuz or JessCuz80S, okay? You get to DM us. This is your opportunity where you get to ask us advice, you get to make suggestions, you get to do all of the things, okay? That is your time. What would we do? W y D. Now, baby, we're gonna be real with you. We are not gonna lie to you. Right. You might want to take the advice, and honey, you might want to leave the advice because you never know what I'm gonna say. Okay. But listen, but for real though, for real though, they like you said, they can take a leave. But look, I think that the things that we both say are valid. So if they listen to both sides, both points, they're gonna get something good out of it. That's true. I told you I got into Tina. Tina, because Tina's gonna hype you up. Hi me up, hi me up. I wish you could see these LL Cool J glasses she got on, y'all. But anyway, anyway, let's roll on, okay? Now, this one today. Ooh, y'all ready? Oh, I'm ready. Oh, this came from Tony. Tony. Okay, Tony no Braxton, but you know, Tony. Okay, this is T-O-N-I 20, okay. And she says, hey ladies, so this is so taboo, but look, it is what it is. Oh, Tony number two!

SPEAKER_02 12:35

Okay, okay, let's see what you're talking about. She's coming out strong, right?

SPEAKER_01 12:39

My guy has a wife, and he says they are separated, but that has nothing to do with me. This is the best relationship I've had in a long time. He is there for me, and he provides all my needs. I am just waiting for his divorce to be final. We have been together two and a half years, two and a half years, and I'm ready for us to be married and start our family together. My daughter loves him and he loves her. Wow, my question is how do I handle his ex-wife, which is our problem? She will not give him the divorce. I am trying to let him handle it, but my patience is thin. W D question mark. Look at my face, Tina. Listen to my tone. Look at my face. Tony.

SPEAKER_02 13:45

You're gonna start this one out because I can feel you got something deep to say.

SPEAKER_01 13:50

Tony. With a Tony with a i and no Braxton. No, no. Tony. Okay, I got like, okay, so we're gonna unpack. First of all, you you are you spicy because you came in like, look, it is what it is. Right. Well, since it is what it is, then what we're gonna say is gonna be is what it is, okay? So the very first thing that stood out to me, it's so many things, different things, but the very first thing that stood out to me is you said, How do I handle his ex-wife, baby girl? That's his wife. Right. Okay, leave that there. And you said, which is our she's not our problem, she's your problem. Okay, I'm gonna leave that right there. And then you also say that my guy has a wife in the beginning. Okay, we'll leave that right there. Then you say this is the best relationship, relationship that you had in a long time. Okay, all right, leave that right there. Then you say y'all been together two and a half years. Oh god, it takes what a year for separation, right? Okay, all right. I'm gonna leave that right there. Okay, I believe you're answering everything. Then you say, um, my daughter uh loves him and he loves her. Why does your daughter even know him?

SPEAKER_02 15:18

Tell it.

SPEAKER_01 15:19

Okay, all right, Tony. So look, let's be real. Girlfriend or girlfriend, let's talk, let's chat it up. Cuz, baby girl, you got a whole problem and the whole situation. First and foremost, you and oh, I forgot the other part where you said you just can't wait for y'all to be married and start your own family to y'all start your family together. Okay, huh? Listen, she ain't leaving nothing out. Nothing out. Listen to me, baby girl. This man is one, not gonna leave his wife. Right. It's two and a half years. He is still very much in my because when you want to be divorced and leave, you're gonna leave. Right. Okay. Don't matter if the person is gonna want to sign it, don't want to sign it, it's ways around it. If they did that separation, like you say, they've been separated, it's a year, not two and a half years, it's a year. So he ain't going nowhere. You are a glorified side chick. Say that, okay. And you're talking about it's a best relationship and he provides all your name needs. You are a glorified side chick that is taken care of very well, so that you will sit over here for two and a half years and be quiet and play house and be everything that he needs you to be. That she that his current wife is not. And so, since his current wife is not and he gets all these other things from you, there is no need for him to do anything different. She the 20%, 20%. Girl, the math ain't nothing. Go ahead, please proceed. And you got this man around your daughter. So you're showing your daughter that it is okay for her to grow up and accept less and be a side chick and not be a main chick and not be not even main chick, not be the queen that she is supposed to be, not be the Proverbs 31 woman that she is supposed to be. You are showing your daughter that it is okay to accept less and to not it's not to receive the meal at the table, but to receive the crumbs from the table. That's what you're showing your daughter, and that's what you are saying that it's okay for you with it being the best relationship you ever had in a long time.

SPEAKER_02 17:33

You preaching today.

SPEAKER_01 17:34

Yeah, you tony, you done made me mad.

SPEAKER_02 17:36

You on fire today. You preaching today, everything you said, absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

I co-sign. I mean, first off, um, it's been two years. And a half, and a half, and a half. If dude wanted to, like Jay said, wanted that relationship to have been ended, it would have been. And you are a glorified side chick. But the thing about it that gets me with this type of stuff is that why is it that you're okay with that? Yeah. Why is it that you're okay with being the side chick and knowing that this man has a wife? Why is it, like, is there some kind of I try to understand the thinking and the mentality of people that do this? Like, what is it that you feel? Is it the rush that you feel? Because I'm gonna I'm gonna give it to you like this. Here's the thing you are interfering into a covenant, a covenant that um is blessed by God. And that covenant says that no man should come between it. That does not exempt you, right? All these people that are out here doing all that stuff, you know, they doing that little that little shady stuff or whatever, that does not exempt you. And so for you to get your kicks off of doing this type of stuff, the only reward from it is a curse. So why are you okay with this? Secondly, Jay said that you um your daughter um loves this man.

SPEAKER_02 19:01

Your daughter, like Jay said, why is she even involved with this foolishness? Why is she involved with knowing all of this stuff that's going on with this man? You're what you're teaching her is that commitment is not important.

SPEAKER_01 19:16

That's what you're teaching her. And the behaviors that she's gonna follow are the behaviors that's taught to her and what she sees and what she knows, and and is and the first thing that they see is what's in the household. Yeah, so it scares me that you're okay with this. Now, the other part that you said, how like she's a problem, she's our problem. She's not, she's not, it's it's not our problem. You are her problem. Yeah, that's exactly what that is. Like you're the problem, you're the issue. Because honestly, if this man has not gotten that divorce at this point in time, and I'm imagining this whole thing, he don't live with you. He can't because there ain't no way that you would put up with that. There's no way you would put up with that. He don't live with you, which means that he's living wherever he lives, whether he's still living at home or he has his own place. But I can guarantee you, in that time in which he's not with you, guess who he probably with? And if he ain't with them, he's talking to him. Why? Because there is still communication that has to that has to go on there, even if they are moving forward into the divorce, still communication has to take place to get to that place. And here's my thing. So, Tony, you have to understand, and I'm gonna assume you've never been married before, right? You have to understand what it takes for two people to stand before God and to take these vows. Like you have to understand what it takes for some for two people to say, look, we're gonna step out here and we're gonna do this together. Okay, tell it. It takes a lot to do that, and it even takes even more to say, I don't want to do it no more. Right, Jay. It takes so much more, right? And you may have a defense that says your daughter, she don't know anything about it. Well, baby, she's gonna know when this man does not carry out this fantasy that you have because that's what it is. It's a fantasy, it's not reality. And that and the reason that we can be so adamant about what we're saying is because two and a half years is a very long time. It's enough time for you to have separated, gotten married, been married for a year and a half. Right, probably have that child or point five if it was for real, if that was the truth. And so, and then another thing too is sir, ma'am. I don't want you if you have not resolved that. Because bringing in baggage, yeah, he is bringing in baggage, and you're in the midst of this whole situation, and you're talking about there's a problem like that. She's the ex-wife is a problem, y'all's problem. No, you like Jay said, you. Or the problem. None of that was even resolved. You the one that came into you came into the ball game late. They were already committed. And I bet you she, I bet you that wife don't know nothing about you.

unknown 22:12

Lord have mercy.

SPEAKER_01 22:13

I bet you she has no idea about you. Because if she had something about, if she knew something about you, you and her would have had a run-in by now. Yeah, like in two and a half years. And you said, I am trying to let him handle it. Baby, if he ain't handled it in two and a half years, it's not gonna get handled. He didn't handle it. He he handling you and handling her. Come on. So he's handling it. Right. In his way. In his way. In his way. Until he gets tired or until they fix that thing over there on the other side. Yeah, because he either waiting for it to get fixed or he waiting for you to do something to solidify the fact that he needs to go back to his wife. Exactly. Which is where it's gonna end. I don't even, I like I don't understand. I I just can't understand the thinking and the mentality of it.

SPEAKER_02 23:03

Why do you want to degrade yourself to a lesser value when it comes to the like your role and the importance in the relationship?

SPEAKER_01 23:12

You're you're okay with being second because that's all you are. You are second. And this is not like y'all dating. This man is married. Right. So what about the little gifts and and and all that stuff? You got you a sugar daddy. So what? Until that mess goes sideways, that mess can get you hurt. What y'all doing on the holidays? Bro, like I got so many questions. What are you doing on the holidays? Because if it was me, thank God it ain't, and it won't be me. But if it was me, um, sir, you got a day to figure this thing out because I'm not about to be nobody's nothing, second rate, nothing. I'm not about to, and the fact, if you knew in the beginning and he didn't withhold the information, he told you in the beginning that he was married, then you just made this bed. You just put the furniture in there and this, and then and the sheets and the covers and the extra pillows and everything on this bed. You dress the house, you dress the whole situation to be what it is that you want it to be. And here's the real talk right here. This is what we do when we have a situation that we know is wrong, because baby girl, you knew it was wrong because you hit us in the beginning with so this is taboo, but look, it is what it is. You already know it's wrong, and so and you already know that there's a perception and something that is gonna be said about the wrongdoing, right? Because otherwise, you wouldn't have even started it that way. You would have just look, guys, I don't really know what's going on, but this is what it is. No, you came in hot. Like, I know y'all probably gonna say something about this, but I'm gonna say it anyway, and I still want you to tell me what to do. Well, if you want to know WWYD or WW uh J D J, what will J do? Baby, I need you to release yourself and release him, and then also go back and get yourself back and get yourself together because what in you deep rooted has allowed you to accept less than what you deserve. That's what we need to unpack, that's what we need to deal with. He wasn't yours, he ain't gonna never be yours because the way you got him is usually the way you lose him. That right there is the point exactly. How can you withhold trust in that type of relationship? Because you're talking about getting married. You're talking about getting married after, you're talking about you getting married after you destroy another foundation. You are being you are being uh um an what is it? Um an accessory to an assassination of another marriage. Jesus. You've been an accessory. An accomplice. So like yeah, you an accomplice. So and and but then you got the nerve to think that yours is gonna come out better, that it's gonna come out on top. Why would you not believe that you're not gonna reap what you so? That's the very thing that um, that's the very thing that you have created. Like you created, yeah. Um like you've participated. I won't say you create it because I put the blame where it needs to be with him as well, because he should be, he should be sitting to himself trying to trying to finish, you know, figure out what's going on on the room. He should have wrote in. He should have wrote it in so we could have got him real together. Right. Okay, right. But that's okay, because I because I mean probably gonna get you together because guys, we know what we're talking about today.

SPEAKER_02 26:40

Right. Most definitely. But you but don't expect to have something um better than something that you have you have created.

SPEAKER_01 26:53

Like this is chaos. It is, and then you're gonna turn around because you say you want to be married, like you said, Tina. You're gonna give what you give. You're gonna turn around and stand before the same God that he stood before and asked and asked God to bless this. When you distort that's my point exactly. I'm done, Tony. Look, baby, I hope you take this advice. We're not gonna give you an option.

SPEAKER_03 27:18

You need to take this advice, and you need to let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go.

SPEAKER_01 27:27

It ain't it ain't it ain't for you. It ain't for you. Moving along, moving right along, y'all. That is so sad. That hurts my heart, Tony. But all right, all right, y'all. Well, we on to that main topic, baby. And it's you know, it's y'all gonna see how it correlates. Temptation. Temptation.

SPEAKER_02 28:00

Ooh, we ooh, we ooh, we I'm gonna let you start that.

SPEAKER_01 28:06

Let me tell you something. Temptation is real, and anything that looks good. I remember my grandma used to say, if it looked too good to be true, it sounds too good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. And that's the way I look at temptation. If it if it looks just too right, too, too easy, right? It's it's not it's not it's not good for you in any way, shape, or form. As it relates to relationships, as it relates to um to those things that go against, because the essence of temptation is something to go against something that you know is right. Right. So it's already a negative word, it's already a negative connotation already, because it's something to tempt, to get you to go outside of, to do something against what you know is right to do, or what your morals are, or you know, what um what it's what the enemy uses.

SPEAKER_02 29:17

Yeah, it's the device that the enemy uses.

SPEAKER_01 29:20

Uh temptation is the exact device that created the fall for man in the beginning. Yeah. Temptation. Being told that you can't have something, and instead of you just taking that advice or you listening and being obedient to the fact that you can't have it and you go after it anyway, what is it gonna do? Cause create create uh chaos. We just talked about that with um with Tony no Tony no brax. Yeah, we just talked about that. It creates chaos, it creates chaos. Temptation, not there's no point of temptation, nothing about temptation that's good. Like it's how can you how can you label something good that was utilized, like I said, as the as the fall that was utilized for the fall of man, and it's it's created for failure. It is temptation is created for your failure. There is not a time that I have heard the word tempt or temptation that has been something that has had something good follow behind it, besides them singing temptations. Oh, and still they tempted a whole lot of people, right? I mean, even though they sound the stuff was good, but it sound was good, that's all a lot, a lot of y'all was made off of the temptation songs. Oh yeah, and but tell the truth and shame the truth. And it probably went the right way. Temptation.

SPEAKER_02 30:55

Oh gosh, well, tell the truth, Shame. Sure enough, though. Facts though, facts for real. I mean, we're talking about being in places and areas that we really truly have, we don't have the access to.

SPEAKER_01 31:08

And even if you have the access to the access to it, it doesn't mean that you should necessarily be there.

SPEAKER_02 31:15

It's just like going in a hospital, right? You go in a hospital and there's certain areas that you cannot navigate into. You can't navigate into those areas because those are for certain people, certain employees, right? Right. Us as the general public when we come in so that we can get our care, you know, that we need or whatnot, you can't be in those areas.

SPEAKER_01 31:37

There might be different things that's going on in those areas that's behind those doors. And that is typically what's happening with temptation. Other things is going on behind those doors, you ain't got no business back behind there. It is for authorized personnel. Not only that, but it's we if you think about it and you and I push that point a little bit further, you might have to be suited a certain kind of way to be in that particular area. So there is a reason why you cannot access those particular areas. There's a reason why you should not fall for temptation to be tempted by things. Yes, we are humans and we're going to be tempted. We are going to be tempted, but it is how we act, it's what we do and how we act. Do we fall for it? Do we move forward? Or do we do we seek the um do we seek the conviction? Because you know, when it comes to temptation, you know, you know when it's wrong because you get the conviction. That little thing that speaks to you, that little voice says, uh-uh, you know that ain't right. And your flesh starts feeling good about it, you know it's not right. It's simple things, and it can start out, Jay, it can start out small. Okay, so let's talk on a level of marriage. Okay, so it can start out small. You got these friends, and I I hear people talk about, oh, I got friends outside of um, outside of my marriage, and and my spouse, they're cool with this and they're cool with that, or whatever. They might be cool with certain things, but after you get to a certain point that creates the temptation, they're not gonna be cool with that. But you put yourself in situations, we gotta be careful. Yeah, let me tell you something. There are boundaries that come with friends, okay? And a true person that like it is two people that are in this marriage, and if you are a believer, there's three, okay? Say it. And it's three three um three chords, okay? So there at no time should one or the other that's in this marriage allow anyone or anything to come into that three chords, right? And so when Tina talks about the small things that tend to happen, um, that become it might start out as a if it's somebody you work with, hey, you look nice today. Okay, it's a shutdown. Thank you. That's it.

SPEAKER_02 33:59

Simple as that.

SPEAKER_01 34:00

That's it, and keep going. But when we entertain the attention, we uh we light the attention, open it up. Um, you're you're starting to you're starting to welcome in the tempt the temptation. You welcome them in the end and you're saying, oh no, no, I'm really doing it. I ain't doing nothing. Like they just gave me a compliment. Oh, but then that compliment turns into I'm gonna sit with you at lunch. Really? Or I'm gonna I might not talk to you outside of work, but I talk to you every day at work. I'm with you every day at work. Tell it. So then you become a work wife. Yo, speak on it. Speak on it. And so you it's your responsibility because you took the vow, so it's your responsibility to say, no, this can't enter into my situation at all. And it all boils down to every area of temptation, all boils down to this. It don't belong to you. Just like that. You don't belong to you. Straight up, straight up. The word says that even if we think it, when it's talking about adultery, it says, even if we think it that we have committed adultery.

SPEAKER_02 35:13

So that should be enough to tell you right there.

SPEAKER_01 35:16

That's why you can't take these relationships too far. You like like Jay said, you gotta cut it. Okay, that's cool. You like you, oh, oh, you look nice. You did you didn't know. Thank you. My husband picked this out. Exactly. Exactly. Cut it and give reverence where reverence is due. Because the reverence isn't due to the one that's comment that's um complimenting you on the other side. No, all that belongs in the household. Yeah. That belongs because if you don't keep that in the household, you're gonna create a mess in the household. Because if you think that that stuff ain't gonna get, that stuff won't get back, it will get back because it starts to like you start to wear it. It starts to become, it's like an aroma. It's it's it's like a scent. You know how dirty things, like the scent stays in something when it's dirty, when it's dingy, when it's won't go anywhere. You can wash it all day and it's still gonna be the same way because it's embedded in it. It's embedded, yeah. And no, you can't taste none of my my lunch. My wife made this for me. Absolutely, guess absolutely. No, you can't cook for me. No, what you cooking for me for? I don't need I don't need to accept nothing from you. And don't you bring nothing that you said to Miss Lucy. Somebody else done Miss Lucy and Lucille them to make for you. No, because I'm you know what Miss Lucy and Miss Lucille spoke over that stuff. Let me tell you something. You should you should tell Miss Lucille, you eat it. Right. I'm good, right? I get fair real good at home. My wife or my husband, um, yeah, they they bring me love. Shut it down. They they provide me, you know, I'm good, I'm straight. And so we so we have talked about it from that relationship standpoint. Well, and like I said, I want you to keep this, it does not belong to you. Right. You we wonder why certain things that we put in our body that um that okay, peace, y'all gonna be mad at me, but it's alright.

SPEAKER_02 37:14

Tell the truth, tell the truth, open it up.

SPEAKER_01 37:16

The things that we put in our body that it doesn't agree, our body rejects it, it doesn't want it, right? It doesn't want it at all. It's like, what are you doing to me? Like, I didn't ask you for that. Now, God is our is the creator of our temple, He made me. And so if we're putting things in our body that is not supposed to be there, and yes, it comes from temptation, so we're talking about drugs, we talking about foreign things that don't have a dwelling place there, it don't have a home, it don't have a residency, it doesn't have an address with you or in your body, and we choose to put it in there. So, drugs, alcohol, all these foreign things. If you you're taking medicine that you ain't even supposed to have because you ain't a diabetic, but you can't even find the diabetics can't find no um medicine on the on the shelves because all the people that's overweight want to lose weight, and they didn't win and got the shots and taking the shots. And now the people that need it can't even get it. Speak on it, so it's the temptation. And why do you want it? You want it because society has told you that you need to look like this. Wow, or society has told you that this is the new it thing, superficial. So every yes, so everybody is going to go get it, and I need it, and I want this, and I want to look like this, and I want to take a little bit extra off here, but anything that you do in in excess is going to become an idol. Anything that you that you idolize and feel as though it's um it you put it at a higher ranking or put it on a pedestal or make it your God, that's a problem. And it's foreign to you, it's foreign to your body, it's foreign to your spirit because who created you? So you're you're feeding your spirit and your body and stuff things that it doesn't belong to you. Rejection. It's rejecting your body is trying to reject it every day. So you wonder why you keep taking you keep doing this and then you get sick. You wonder why. Um I oh my god, I can't. I know this does this to me, I know it impairs me. I know I make all these different decisions and the wrongness and the wrong that or whatever, but it just keeps calling my name, temptation. Girl, you'll be a preaching and you may and you allow it to rule you, you allow it to take precedence over your life, precedence over your purpose that God gave you. So you have sacrificed your purpose for temptation, your purpose for temptation. I'm gonna sacrifice my purpose for temptation for the apple from the tree. That's what I'm about to sacrifice. I'm about to sacrifice the glory for a piece of fruit from the tree. Man, get out of here. Let me tell you something. You start to unpack things, you start to look at things a little bit differently, and you start to put the you start to pull back the veil and you start to really see things the way that God sees things, the way that God wants you to see things, you see the real, you don't see the smoke screen. Come on, come on. And once you and once you have have put yourself in a place, and it it means you gotta get into it, you gotta get into your word, you gotta pray, you gotta do all these things so that you can resist temptation. The devil tried to tempt Jesus. Come on, take it. So who are you? Hey, tell him who are you to think that you're not gonna be tempted every day that your eyes are open. Some of us are even tempted in our dreams. Oh, girl, that's that's deep. So once you once you get yourself in a place and it starts with your spirit, we talked about this some episodes back. It starts with your spirit and your mind. If you think it, it's already so. So your spirit has to be intact so that your mind can be intact, so your spirit can minister to your mind, so that your mind ministers to your heart, and then everything else is in alignment.

SPEAKER_02 41:47

Amen. Amen.

SPEAKER_01 41:51

Girl, the way you just unpack that, the way you just unpack that. Straight up. It's real. Straight up. Like you, you just gave reference to not only not only with when it comes to the uh medications and all these things and idols and all this stuff. I mean, you just unpack that thing fully. Because all of that is tempting, it's to set you off course, it's to set you off your purpose. Because the here's the thing. With let's be real. We need to understand what the enemy wants. The enemy wants you to um sacrifice or give away your birthright, which is your purpose. Uh-oh, Jacob. Uh oh, she oh, oh, okay, okay, okay. The enemy, y'all. I'm telling you, when we understand that the enemy wants us to revoke the promise, to omit the promise, then you start to understand this is why this happens, and I have to make a different decision. This is why um I have to approach this a different way. This is why I can't let you get me outside of who I know that I am and what God has called me to be. This is why I can't let this small situation do this. This is why I can't let this fine behind man or woman take me off course to do this when I know that my purpose is here and God has ordered my steps and cleared the path and showed me that this is the way I'm supposed to go. But I want to take the scenic route because it looked better from from the outside looking in, because you ain't even got on that path yet. So you don't know what it holds.

SPEAKER_02 43:40

You preach.

SPEAKER_01 43:41

But you but you want to take the scenic route and you and you want to hope that Disney World down here, you don't know for sure. It just in hopes. We're just hoping. We're just hoping if you take the H out of hope, it becomes dope, and then you you be doped up and tricked up and won't know what happened. You're just gonna hope that you that this earlier down the road. Yes, you have to know a thing for yourself. And if you are a true believer, if you are someone, even if you're seeking, okay, even if you in the in-between and you're not really sure or whatever, there is some there is something called your intuition, there is something that is called your conscience and your morals that activate, and you know why? Because God created you. So even when you ain't trying to, you ain't trying to um hear him or call on him, he's still calling on you, he's still trying to woo you, so he's still trying to direct you, he's still trying to guide you. Um go, Tina. No, no, no, no, no. Girl, I'm sitting look, I'm over here eating it up. Uh-uh. Uh-uh. I ain't I ain't got nothing to say. Not the way the Holy Spirit was all over there. I'm telling you, you have to let the Lord work. You have to give him the opportunity. We cannot stop him when he's in the midst of doing what he does. We cannot interject and try to make it be something that it's not, which is what temptation is. We cannot try to make something be what we know that it is not. We cannot try to accept things off of false predication, thinking that no, it's really this because you want it to be. Just because you want it to be doesn't mean that's what it is.

SPEAKER_02 45:45

You're talking good.

SPEAKER_01 45:47

That's in anything. That's in anything. We cannot try to fake believe. Fake believe. Fake believe. Like you, like you really don't believe it. You need to coin that word. You fake in the phone because you want to believe it to be something that it's not. We learn in kindergarten the difference between real and make believe. Say so. So how you gonna put it together? Y'all. And I can say this and I can be in this place because I have been there. Temptation is so real and it doesn't feel good. Right. It doesn't feel good because once you give in, it never turns out the way that you thought it was gonna be. It never turns out that way. And if we can understand and recognize what it is before we fall into it, then we got the victory, we got the power over it. It doesn't overtake us. Amen. Amen and amen. Again, I'm sick of her, y'all. See over here preaching. I'm I look, I'm just taking it in. Look, I done turned towards her and everything. Like I I feel like I was just in service. I know I didn't, I didn't I didn't I didn't expect everything that everybody had spoken. I mean, but it's the truth. That's that was good. That was definitely spirit led. I mean, you got the power over God is giving you dominion and power, and you got the power over you got the power over everything that will come to oppose you or to um to destroy you, right? You have the power to defeat it, right? It's already been given to you. All you gotta do is just exercise, do what the Power Rangers do. Come on, the power. Some of y'all don't even know who the Power Rangers are. See, that's why we are just cuz 80s. Period. Because we know all that. Activate, right? We asked for it to activate, and it's this little thing, and it's been going around for years, but it says Holy Spirit activate, right? Like sometimes you got to tell the activate temptation, dissipate. That's right. Because I don't need you to activate, get I need you to get on about your business, because you're about to get me in a whole bunch of trouble. Thanks. That 20 is never better than that 80. I promise you. Thanks. Okay, Tina, go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 48:31

That was beautiful.

SPEAKER_01 48:32

Okay, Tina, go ahead. That was beautiful. You don't got nothing to say. Uh-uh. Because the Holy Spirit already spoke. You know how they say in church, when the Holy Spirit comes and you speak, and then after you speak, you sit down and you shut up. Okay. Well, all right, y'all. Look, all I will say is just do not be tricked, do not allow yourself to be trick-or-treated. Because if it don't belong to you, it don't belong to you. It ain't yours. It's not your don't touch it. You don't go out there and take nobody else's money because if you do, you're going to jail. Come on. So don't, and that's with everything. You might be tempted to try to covet somebody else's gifts and things like that. Don't touch it. Well, don't touch it. Because you might not go to jail, but you might end up in hell and you don't want to do that either. So, I mean, we gotta make decisions. This is our life. Even if you're married, you're still an individual, it's your individual walk.

SPEAKER_03 49:33

That's right.

SPEAKER_01 49:33

And so you gotta stand before God. You ain't gonna stand before God with your spouse. That's right. That's right. I mean, the marriage and stuff is the earthly thing. We each have to work our own stuff. You gotta work your own stuff out. You can't stand over here and say, Well, I did it because my wife had said that didn't even fly for Adam. Sure didn't didn't work. You tried it, but Eve, baby, baby, you allow Eve to take you away from your whole destiny.

unknown 50:08

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 50:10

Because she she was banging in all the right areas. She had them double D's with that, with that, with that D D in the back, like with that big that booty dude, whatever you want to call it. It's the homeboy was like, girl, do what you do. Come on, but the thing is, he wasn't even present, but he should have been present. He shouldn't have been present. Baby, let me tell you something. Just because it looked good, I mean it's good for you. That's right. That's good for somebody else. Dumbledore you, girl. You just done touch everything, um every subject and decide. You you done turned that thing, flipped it over, and all and that thing is done. It's done. All right, y'all. We talked about when we talked about when to stop at church last time. So we're gonna start right here. Um, all right, Tina. So we're about to close this thing out. And we're about to do a what we're gonna do? We're gonna do a rant or what we're doing? Oh, let's do it back in the day. I actually have a back in the day.

SPEAKER_00 51:09

Oh, you got it back in the day?

SPEAKER_01 51:10

I do.

SPEAKER_00 51:11

I do back in the day when I was young. I'm not a kid anymore. There's some things that wish I was a kid again.

SPEAKER_02 51:17

Okay, go. All right, okay, back in the day, back in the day.

SPEAKER_01 51:20

Do you remember back in the day when we used to get the um uh write on magazines and vibe magazines?

SPEAKER_02 51:29

Right, right, right. You remember word up?

SPEAKER_01 51:32

We used to get the and we used to hang the posters up and all that stuff or whatever. But do you remember that in some of the magazines that we would get, there would be the um 12 CDs for a penny. And we would all we had no jobs. Not one job. We ain't had no job, nope. But we would get them CDs. Well, we weren't playing. We would not play. I mean, you talking about that. The fact that we got CDs. C D and remember, remember when CDs came out, and so I'm well, we're old enough to remember um like the record, um the record player and the eight-tracks. My mama had an eight-track, and I was like, why is this thing so big? And I can I can it's uh like a swollen cassette tape. Yes, I was like, why is this thing so big? This the cassette tape wasn't upgraded from the um eight track. From the eight track, yes, and so we like these kids will never ever know that. Like, that is so vintage. I don't even know what that looks like. No, they wouldn't even know what to do with it. And so, um, so okay, so do you remember? I don't know why I'm stuck on toys, but do you remember the slinky? Like slinky thing. Do you remember the um cricket doll? Yes, I remember my buddy. Oh my buddy, yeah, yeah. Teddy Ruff's music. Yes, yes, cabbage patch kids. Oh girl, I love cabbage patch kids. I don't know how many of those I had. Okay. Um, and do you remember? Let me see. Um, oh, the the little red car that we used to get in, a little fish. Yeah, everybody had one. And then we used to we used to be on wag, we used to get in wagons, a little old school radio. Radio flyer. Radio flyer. That's what was written along the side of the the wagon. Radio flyer. I forgot about that. Yes, I remember that. That is so funny. I think there's a movie that's called Radio Flyer, and it starts like it's a realm based off of that little red wagon. Do you remember um where we used to wear clothes um backwards? Like crisscross. Yes, make you jump, jump, and then it makes a make you. Yes, yes. Oh god, a dope times. Oh my gosh. And then music then was just so different. Music was like so, so different, and you actually knew what everybody was saying, you knew all the words. Do you remember having to rewind the um cassette tape back? Because you're trying to make sure you got all the lyrics. And you even wrote them down, wrote them down so that you would make sure that you knew everything. Or we talked about it before about if you get ready to record something, right? But you better be careful that you check it so you don't record over what you already got. You erase whatever you had on there, and then you're like, oh, I know I had it, but but but you know we did it because we run out of tapes, we run out of cassette tapes and VHS. Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, girl, every time you put the VHS um inside the um the player, and it would chew up the it would chew up the um, what is it, like the little film in the inside, and you pull it out and the whole thing just strains. And I and I will never ever forget when DVDs came out. I thought that was the best thing ever happened. Everybody wanted a DVD player, and then baby, not the combo, you can listen to music and right look at a movie. What? And now it's like everything is digital, everything, and they slowly got to that because from the DVDs came like MP3 players, yes, and then MP3 players to all this other digital stuff, all these other digital products. Yeah, you remember the um, oh my god, what was it? The um we used to listen, was it an iPod? Yeah, iPods. We used to listen to the music on there. I had a little purple wing girl, and it was little, and it the little um turning thing, like the little dial was silver, and we had a little head, a little headphones. Oh my god, headphones, headphones that was attached with long strings, you're right, right. Everything, yeah, everything was corded at that time. You get wrapped up in that dead plane thing, you get wrapped up in it, but you know what? But nowadays, nowadays, every so often you find yourself having to revert back to stuff like that because this new stuff, like the battery, it'll go dead on. It sure will. It'll go dead on. Yeah, and it seems as if with this new stuff as well, like with your headphones and things like that, one side might go out quicker than the other. But you really didn't have those issues we didn't have it, and then you remember walkie-talkies, like when we we loved, like, I would be so happy. You take a walkie, I'm gonna go all the way down. I'm gonna see if you can hear me. Yes, I can hear you, dummy. Like, it's a walkie-talkie. Oh my gosh. Back in the day, do you remember?

SPEAKER_02 56:42

Do you remember pagers? Everybody had pages.

SPEAKER_01 56:45

Yes, everybody. I mean, you weren't doing nothing, you weren't working with nothing, you didn't have a pager.

SPEAKER_02 56:52

And who in the world did we did we need to page us?

SPEAKER_01 56:55

Like, I was gonna page us. Nobody had your number except for your friends. But I'll tell you one thing. You remember the sidekick and the um and the the blackberry? Yes, the blackberry was me. You you were not a boss woman if you didn't have a blackberry phone. Yeah. I came out of, let me see. Was I in I'm trying to remember when it was. I was in college, but I remember when you had a blackberry phone, you was official. Oh, I believe that all of the business. Because everybody couldn't have it, everybody couldn't get it. Everybody couldn't get it. Oh, baby, yes. And the PDAs. Remember the little palm palette? Yes. Oh god. Oh my god, the little pen. Bring them back, y'all. I'm sad. Bring them back. I like the way y'all. These kids will never know this stuff. They will never know. My son doesn't like. I had showed him um a phone book. He didn't even know what it was. I asked him, I didn't know. Does it still come out? Do they? Yes, in some places. They still got phone books. I guess in little small towns. I didn't think nobody had a landline except for my uncle. Girl, we got one for um faxes and stuff. I know that's right. And for the security. Okay, that's good. That's good. That makes sense. All right. All right, y'all. We got so good. We're gonna be on back in the day for a little bit growing. We got a lot to remember. All right, y'all. Well, we thank y'all from here, from here in the United States, all the way across the sea, the ocean, the pine, all the way over to Africa, all the way over to Europe, all the way over to um England, everywhere. Everywhere. We we love you. We thank you for your support. We thank you for tuning in and to just listening to two little country girls that just found out they were cousins in May of last year. We thank you, we thank y'all, and we we appreciate y'all. We do. And always remember we're going to live, laugh, and love. All right, y'all, to next time.