Episode 22: ACT VS REACT

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Welcome to Jess Cause Podcast. I'm Jay. And this is Katina. Hey, Katina! Look, y'all, we are so happy we're back with another week. So let me let me do something. Because you know, like we said, we take y'all feedback, right? Right. So, guys, today, let me tell you what this topic is about to be about. Our main topic is action, not reaction. So, y'all hang out, stay tuned for that, because you already know us. You don't know which way we're gonna go. You don't know how it's gonna fuck. Don't. Don't know. Okay? So, all right, Tina. What's your mood like, honey? What is my mood for the day? Oh gosh, it's been all over the place, Jay. Because at one point I was like, oh my gosh. I ain't even gonna lie. At one point I felt a little defeated. But then, you know, I had to go talk to my daddy because I talked to my daddy and I tell my daddy everything. I tell him everything. So I started talking to my daddy, and then my daddy was like, girl, what you tripping over? Like, you know, I got you. You know, I got you. So then from that point, it was like, joy, joy, joy, joy, joy. But I'm with you with joy, and they probably talk about us, but we like twin flames anyway, so whatever. Um, I got the same mood because I'm still on the high from Atlanta Live. Girl, wasn't that amazing? Atlanta Live was amazing, and we have to take the time to thank y'all for tuning in, for um, for actually tuning in at 7 o'clock Standard Time on that Monday. Yeah, y'all dope. Y'all did that. And like I said, y'all could have been anywhere else.

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Y'all could have been doing anything else. Y'all could have been watching your shows because baby, I know I got a line up. So I'm like, y'all decided to hang with us. That is so dope. How awesome is that? So my mood carries on from all of that, and then all of the things that we got. All of the things, Tanisha, that we got going on now. Like uh, there's a huge something that I just completed as well. And I have to put it out there because at the end of the day, look, Jay and Katina are just cuz podcasts, right? That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. So what we so what we do also carries over, right? That's right. So I have to say, big shout out to Tanisha Michelle Bagley. Absolutely. Yes, my client. And she, we just wrapped season one of her talk show.

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Dope.

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And it is coming in May. May, okay. Everybody, you need to make sure that you mark that on your calendars so that you can watch and support the show. Go download H H N T V apps, which is Hip Hop Network app, and then use the code TM Love. So that you can subscribe and you can get your little discount, okay? TM Love, y'all. Yes. So I am, I am a producer, I am the director of the talk show. And guess what, guys? We got J, J, go J. Go, Jesus. Go Jesus. Amen. Amen to that. Oh, glory be to God. Oh, glory. But you know something though? But you know something. But I give praise where praise is due because it also requires that we be obedient. It also requires, you know, that we go through the storm and that we we don't lose faith. Come on, man. And people just do not know, they don't understand how much we actually go through as being our own, like owning our own businesses, being entrepreneurs. Yeah, it is not for the week. It's not, it's not for the week. I am so proud of you, sister. Girl, I just thank you. And all I say is, and this is for the both of us, y'all stay tuned. Stay tuned. Y'all, please stay tuned. And and you you gotta be messed up if you don't think that we're gonna have to need to come on this show and talk about all that she's doing. So I'm not even gonna tell y'all all that she's doing. Go on the research, okay? Gonna research so you're prepared. Okay. All right. Thank you. So, Tina, it's your favorite. It's my favorite. It's my nephew Pup's favorite. Y'all, W W Y D. What would y'all do? This is an opportunity where we invite you guys to be a part of our show. We invite you to come in and we invite you to say, you know what? You can write a scenario or something that's happening with you, a thought, a topic, whatever it is that you want us to talk about or that you want our advice about, right? And so engage what is right to us, y'all. Yes. Talk to us. Do it. Get in our dm. Yeah. Okay? Yeah. You and I know other people would think it was about to say. That's exactly what I was about to say. Get in our DMs. Or if you old school, email us just 80s at gmail.com. And we're waiting to talk to you. We're waiting to see what's up. Okay. Right. And there isn't an age. There's no age restrictions. None of that. We can talk, we can talk to the youngest of them, to the oldest of them. That's right. Doesn't even matter, okay? That's right. All right, y'all. Here we go. This is Anonymous from Mississippi. Hey, Mississippi. This is a letter. Right. I cook a letter, crook a letter, I hump, back, hump, back, I. Oh, yeah. Okay, you know that's how we learn how to do Mississippi. Right. Okay. All right. So Anonymous says, hey, because I am trying to cope with losing so many of my family and friends back to back. Oh, wow. I feel so alone and confused on why God would have left me and so many of my loved ones are gone. I just need understanding. Oh wow. That's that's tough. That's tough, Jay, because I I'm hearing this a lot. I'm hearing this a lot more. And it's but not only am I hearing it, but it's happening within my family as well. It used to be that it used to seem as if you would hear people passing because of old age, but now that's not necessarily the case. Yeah, they're so young. Yeah, it's it is, and it's it's heartbreaking. But um, okay, what did it was anonymous, right? But baby girl, baby boy, um, whomever, understand that even in seasons of sorrow, my God, and and I do um give recognition to you being in that season, but even in seasons of sorrow, that God is still there. God is still there, and I want you to remain encouraged. Um, still remember the good that you have that's still left around you. God has a plan, He has a plan and a timing for all things. And sometimes we don't understand that plan, and we don't understand that timing. And I'm not about to be that one that comes with that same saying, well, God doesn't make mistakes or whatever, because we all have heard that before, but it does not, it does not help the way that we feel. So what I want to do right now is just give recognition and validate that your feelings, um, that they do matter, and to say to you that I am very sorry for what it is that you are going through. But I also want to remind you of the good that you have surrounding you, whether it be I like I don't know if this person that you lost, if it's a mother or a father, but if you still have one of the one of those um parents around, then be grateful for that. Or if you have um some people have grandparents that are still in their lives, be grateful for that and spend time with them. That's one thing that we miss, and a lot of times we become sad because we didn't spend the time. So with the ones that you have left, spend the time with them. Spend the time with them. You know, let them know that that they matter to you. Yeah, let them know that you love them. But but greater than that, you give them the opportunity to let you know so that they can let you know how they feel about you, that they love you and that they care for you. And sometimes we miss that because we don't because we don't connect enough, right? So I'm gonna say this, um, anonymous and and Tina has given you so many amazing nuggets. Um I'm gonna say understand that you are here for purpose. Amen. And you are still here because there's still yet more for you to fulfill, speak, for you to do, for you to accomplish. Um people say I understand or I sympathize with you, or I'm empathetic to you, or what have you. Um, and they may not have been in that space. Right. But I'll tell you, I, and it hasn't been too long ago, I lost three people that were so influential to me in my life back to back. I lost um my uncle that was like a father figure to me, my eldest uncle. I lost my father, and I lost my other uncle that was um like a father figure to me as well. And um they were a matter of months apart from each other. That's tough. And I remember saying to myself, because I do, I do want to recognize the fact that you're like, God, like, why you leave me here? You know? Um, I remember being in a space where I'm just like, I don't understand this. I don't know how to live in this space or to be okay in this space. I say, God, you're gonna have to help me because I don't even know what to feel in this space, right? And the Lord reminded me. He said, They're mine. They belong to me. I allowed you to borrow them for a period of time, just as you like me and you, anonymous, right, belong to our father. And when he's ready for us to come home, that's when it's gonna be. That's right. And so what we have to do, I started looking at life differently. And I started saying, okay, this is an opportunity. This is an opportunity for me to do all everything that I want to do, um, everything that I have, those desires in me, that purpose in me that I feel all the time, to do that unction leading you in a certain direction, your likes that you love and like to do. And it's time to like implement those things. And I will tell you, when you get in that space, and I really I can really sit here and pinpoint and think about the time frame of what has happened when I lost my father, because my father was the last one that I lost. But I lost my father, and to this point, and when I got in that space and I just said, okay, I'm gonna look at life differently. Everything that I have ever wanted to do, set out to do, been preparing to do with my dreams, things that are like old things from like years ago, they are coming into fruition now because I started to own my purpose. That's it, Jay. That's it. Own my purpose. That's it. It's something to understand that purpose that we all have purpose. It's another thing to own yours. That's all right. And say, God, you develop, you create, you design, you do in me what I need to be to have done in me so that I can fulfill purpose. That's good. That's good, Jay. Because what happens if we don't get there? We end up feeling unfulfilled. Unfulfilled. We're unfulfilled if we do not do what it is that we're called to do. And understand what she said. She said something very important. What you are called to do, what your purpose is, not what some other purpose that someone else has for you. What you are called to do, because what you are called to do is what God gave you the vision for. He didn't give you the vision for what somebody else has in mind or had planned. He gives the instruction to you in individually. I think that's awesome that you went this direction with that in giving advice to anonymous. I think that's wonderful because a lot of times we get caught up in the emotion and we forget the reason. Yeah. And we forget the purpose. Not the reason, but we forget our purpose. And we get caught up in the emotion, and the emotion becomes the obstacle that leads us to nowhere. It leads us to nowhere. And so don't allow the enemy to utilize that emotion and to turn it into a place of depression that keeps you, that keeps you in a place where there's no movement. No movement. Where it can be stagnant. Do just what Jay said. Start to move in motion on your purpose so that you will see that your life is fulfilled. Bring that focus back home. That's good. Bring that focus back to you and say, you know what? I am going to live every day like it's my last. That's good. People think about that as being a cliche. That's real. But that's real. That's the way me and Tina live our life every single day. Because we never know. You never know when God is going to call your number. No. You never know. All you gotta be prepared. You just gotta be ready. You just gotta try to be ready. But in the midst of you being ready, you have to ask yourself, are you doing what it is that God called you to do? Are you doing what it is that He gave you instruction on? Because what you don't want to do is to close your eyes and you didn't fulfill it. You didn't fulfill it. I remember my mama used to um used to preach, and when she would open up, she would always say, Where um, where's the most wealthiest place in the world? So, you know, people give all these different answers and all this, this, this, this, that. And then she was like, okay. Nobody thought about the cemetery. Right. That's good. Because that there's the cemetery is full of wealth with unfulfilled dreams. That's good, Jay. That's good. It holds so much knowledge, so much um gifting, so much, you know, unfulfilled dreams. And the thing about it is what we know is that if we don't do it, gotta raise somebody else up. You will. That's that's the other part. People fail to believe that. And I say fail to believe it. If you do not do what you're supposed to do, he will raise up someone else. He did Malachi told Esther that. I knew you were going there, yes. Malachi told Esther that. He was like, Esther, look, check it out. You need to go tell the king that it's some things that's happening down here, and if he don't get on it, we in some big trouble. And Esther was like, you know, I can't go before the king, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Because if I go before the king, he could kill me. And Malachi was like, check it. If you don't do it, God will surely save the generation of people, but he will use somebody else. So it's for you to do what you're called to do. Yeah, I might. That was nice. Yeah, look. Pin that. Period. So anonymous in Mississippi. Know that God is with you, know that God is leading you and directing you. And know that this is a new beginning for you. This is a new opportunity for you to rediscover who you are and to really define and go after what your purpose is. That's awesome. That's awesome advice. Period. I couldn't even say it loud this high. And guys, you know what? I just thought about it. But you know what? It's our show, and we can do it however we want to. So if you had a birthday, if you had a birthday, if you had a birthday, happy birthday. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. I'm sorry I missed you earlier, but I did not forget you because any I came back around and got you. Did so we are so happy that you are here. We thank God that you saw another year. Amen. And we made it turn up for 2026. Amen. Amen. You lit to see another year. Another year. Glory. Hey. All right, y'all. For this main topic, we already let you know action, not reaction. Tina. That's loaded gone, girl. Action, not reaction. The first thing that I think about is, you know how people tell you act, don't react. Yeah, I've heard that before. I used to be a person, baby, that I'm gonna react every time. You come at me with so however you come at me, there is going to be a reaction. Okay. Okay. But then I grew. Oh, right. Somewhere in my 30s and early 40s. It took a while. I started to say, you know what, Jay, you cannot always react. Right. Sometimes you have to take control over your actions, and you have to provide action instead of reaction to get the resolve or the solution that you anticipate. So you have to think about the resolve and the result first before you determine whether you're gonna react or just provide action. Right, right. That's good. It depends on what you expect and to get out of it. If you come to me sideways, the first thing I want to do is meet your sideways. Energy matching energy. Yes. And that's gonna lead us nowhere. We're probably locked up in who got bail money. Okay. Especially nowadays. Why shoot? Everybody trying to get gas. We're trying to get gas. Four dollars and$10. This is ridiculous. I'm trying to tell you how you gonna look. Even if you got bail money and you got gas, you stay in there. So so we're gonna have to, we're gonna have to smooth back on that whole reaction thing. But you know what though, Jay, the Bible says that it says a soft voice or a soft answer turns away wrath. So sometimes it is not well, not sometimes, I mean, that's what the word says. So it's better that we think, that we stop and we think before we actually speak and before we actually react on whatever it is that is put in front of us. Because if you have if you think about it, a lot of times people try to, they try to um, what is the word? What's the word? Um provoke. Provoke. A lot of times people try to provoke you. They're already in their bad place, and what they want to do is mess up your witness. Yes, they want to change your character because you have led in a certain place that may have like pushed them to this negative place, and they want you to come with them right there so that they can take the L with them. Yeah, so that they can say, see, I told you. I told you I could get you to the break. Yeah, I told you I could get you to cuss me out, put hands on me. They ain't as good as what what everybody thought. See, I knew that was a lie, I knew that was a front. That's where all that comes from. And that ain't nothing but a trick from the enemy. And is it a trick from the enemy? They're sitting there just waiting for that reaction, just so they can make you tilt your crown. Don't tilt your crown, yes, adjust it. That's thank thank you. Thank you. Thank you, thank you. Not allowed and I said tilt, I mean don't let nobody knock your crown off your head. Period. It's okay, because look, everything is not gonna happen in perfection. So you might get ready to say what you're gonna say, or you might begin to say what you're gonna say, but you know what? But something happens, and the Holy Spirit will say, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, slow it down. Baby, that was today. That was today. Sometimes you gotta slow, sometimes you have to slow your roll because if you slow your role and you begin to think about the the situation and you start to think out who's involved with the situation or what's involved with the situation, you begin to have light and understanding of why what's happening is even taking place. And to have the why, to understand why, there's power in understanding in having the why. Because the power that's in the why is having the knowledge. Yeah. So if you have the knowledge, that means you have the understanding. So if you got the understanding, you got the control. You have all the power if you have the understanding and the control. And that's the thing. A lot of us, I think that we make the decisions that we make because it feels like it's a lack of control, or like you'd have lost control. And so it's like you're trying to get that back. And the fr and the only thing that you can think of to get this back is to go left. Right. She said go left. I said right. Right. That's the first thing you think about. It's like, no, I'm going to I'm I'm going to make you understand what I'm saying. I'm going to pull you to where I am. Because you over there in la la land with some somebody else and and with the underworld or whatever you want to call it because it's negative. So you somewhere in a negative space.

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And either you're going to pull me over there or I'm going to pull you over here to the light. Right. Now, and that's the way we should go. That's the way we should go, and that's the way we should look at it. Either I'm going to be pulled to the underworld. Right. Or you're going to be pulled over here with me with carriers and rainbow and rainbows. And clouds. And cotton candles. And cotton candy. And cotton candy and lollipops.

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Who doesn't like cotton candy and lollipops?

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Girl, the yellow bird rogue and all that. Like, I mean, it's it's just to me, it's a decision that we have to make. Right. And that boils down to what you were saying. We have to think. Because while something is in the heat of something and adrenaline is rushing and all of that, and it's an argument. And I'm saying I'm saying this and I'm taking it from this standpoint because we're losing people. Yes. And we're losing people. People are shooting strangers on the highway. Because they didn't crazy. Because they've been cutting them off. Because they don't have control. No control. And the only way that they see that they can control this situation is the in your life. That's crazy. How drastic is that? You cut me off. That's crazy. And now I'm in your life? That's crazy. You're powerless. You are a you are a person that lacks authority when you can't even control your own self. How is it that you feel like what you're pouring out in all that negative space and that negative tension? How do you feel as if that is powerful? Or how do you feel that that's accomplishing anything? It's not. All it's doing is making you look weaker. Because you can't even control yourself. It's proving your weakness. It is. It is. That's what it does. It's proving your weakness. You can't, you don't even have control over yourself, let alone how can you control a situation. You know, I say a lot of times, you know, people that they put in placement in jobs like that are supervisors and things like that. I say a lot of times, I say, some people are in positions that they don't deserve to be in. They're in low positions of authority. And I call it low positions because everything is under God. Right. Everything is under God. So I call it low positions of authority, but they don't even know how to operate and function in those positions. And you have people's lives in your hands. However, the thing about that is although you have people's lives in your hands, somebody else has everything in everything in their hands. And you have to remember too that you can come under submission as well. Yes. You have to come under submission. So if the way that you treat people, that's always, see, that's another thing. That's another thing. A lot of people think that they get away with how they treat people and the things that they say. Yeah, haters. Haters. They think that they get away with that stuff, right? But you don't because you reap what you sow, what you put out. It comes back. It comes back. And you kill your blessings. Yeah, and you may not even realize it when it's happening. You may think you have won. Right. Until the Lord sits you down and show you. Won't He? Won't He? Show you this is this is why you're in this desolate place. This is why you're in a place where things won't grow. That's deep. This is why you made this decision when you knew and you heard me tell you not to. That's deep. I gave you every indication of not to do this. I even told you what I would do for you. That's it. And you was like, nah, uh-uh. No self-control. I'm gonna forfeit it. No self-control. Yeah, you forfeit the blessing. That's crazy. When you want to act out of yourself and out of impulse, you forfeit your blessing. And guess who you hurt? You. That's it. You and I'm not. It doesn't affect anyone else. It doesn't affect anybody else. When you hurt, when you hurt yourself, you hurt yourself and you alone. And that's a bad realization that you have to sit in once you discover that, oh God, you gave me all these chances. Oh God, you prove you you were showing me that I should have done this. Or you were you were giving me an indication that, oh, maybe I shouldn't make this decision. Maybe I shouldn't treat this person like this. Oh God, I let envy take over me. I let envy win. That's terrible. I let envy and um and competition. I let all that destroy me. Now I have nothing. To have nothing, to reap nothing. You know what? We sitting here and we're talking about forfeiting the blessing. Guess who else forfeited the blessing? Who? Esau. Period. Esau forfeited his blessing when it came to Jacob. Oh, foolishness. You know why? Because he didn't think. You must think before you react. And it became the blessing that he forfeited was his birthright. His birthright. That's something, that's something that you don't give up your birthright. Who gives up their birthright? That's the same thing. That is equivalent to these people out here that have no self-control because that's what that was. He did not think he had no self-control. That's equivalent to these people that have no self-control when it comes to their anger and and like you said, their envy and all this stuff, and they do these things, they react in these ways. And it it reaps you what? Nothing. It reaps you nothing. You lose the harvest. Do you understand what it is that Jacob gained? And Jacob knew it. He was smart. That's why the person that reacts, or that that's why the person that acts calmly and that speaks calmly are the ones that end up being called blessed. They end up being called blessed. Exactly. Because in that because in that story, here's the thing. And what is so amazing about God, even though the enemy is running amok on this earth, right? Because God has given the enemy dominion over the earth. Right. Like he is he is able to go into and fro, but he has an expiration date. Right. And it's coming soon. He still got to get permission. And he still got to get permission before he even comes to you, mess with you, do anything to you. That's right. He got to get permission. But but straight up. But straight up, the haters, the haters are always going to be, they're always going to be haters. They're always going to sit and look. And truly, the um the job of the hater is to sit and watch, and they're watching to either see that you fail, or they want to watch to see where it goes to. It's one or the other. Where it goes to, or if they fail, they're looking to see one or the other. And when they're looking to see where it goes to, the whole time they're looking, they're just looking so they can have something to um criticize. They're just looking to have something to criticize. But guess what? Yeah, and they hide. They hide in the shadow. They hide in the shadow. So you ain't even brave enough to stand in the light. Right. Right. But the thing about it is, who cares? Nobody cares. Because if the Lord is walking with you, you are the one with the power and the dominion. That's why they stay in the dark. They stay in the dark. That's exactly why they are not going to be able to do that. They cannot even stand in your light. They don't want to be near light. Darkness does not have an association with light. It does not want to be near light. And sometimes that's exactly why those that are like that are in a dark time or a dark season, say, okay, say someone is, I'm just gonna make a um make an example, okay. So I and I'll say this, like in the past, I've had friends, right? I've had some friends. And sometimes the Lord allows you to see things so that he so that you realize what the situation is and know what to call it and to cut it loose. Come on now. But I have friends in the past, right? And it seemed like everything that they had to say, it was negative. Everything. You so I'm like, you telling me everything that goes on. Every time I talk to you. Every time I talk to you is negative. Everything you definitely are not in tune with Christ. You definitely are not praying. You definitely, if you're not seeing a blessing, it is because you are out of placement. You are out of placement. You should be seeing blessing. There's no way that everything in your life could be going bad. But I had friends that were around me, and God was like, You got to get rid of that mess. Yeah. He was like, You trying to minister to something that does not want to be that does not want to be um lifted. It does not want to be raised. It wants to stay there. It wants to stay there and let it lay. And let it lay because that's just what it is with some that's not. And they call themselves victims. And in the midst of it. They do. You are not a victim. No. You are not a victim. Nine times out of ten, you are the creator of your circumstances, your circumstance and your situation. Absolutely. And you have not taken, you have not taken ownership, accountability of your part that you have played in the midst of whatever this chaos is that you have created. That part. Because if all that is around you is chaos, there is no room for God. Come on. Come on. All that around you is negative. Everywhere you go, no matter where you go, you are the common denominator. If you are the common denominator, you are the problem. And you have to you have to reevaluate how you show up. Come on, teach it to them. Teach it to him. Because if you reevaluate how you show up in a conversation, in a situation, in person, on the phone, right through somebody else, whatever the case is, you are still held accountable for what you say, what you do, and what you don't do. That's right. And you are the reflection of what you have made or what you have. So now when people look at you and they see you coming, the first thing they think is, oh God, here we go. Oh my gosh, you already know what they're gonna say. You already know what they're gonna do. People don't even want to see you coming. No. And honey, control is everything. Yes, and you know me. I be like, oh Lord Jesus, please bring all you warning angels with me because I got to go do this, and I gotta deal with this, gotta deal with this person, gotta deal with this situation, gotta do this. Like, no, it's not good to be that person. Uh-uh. And it disturbs your spirit, right? Oh my gosh. Oh, something that's spirit disturber. Ooh, wee. That's terrible. That's terrible, yo. How can you dwell? Power, your power is everything, but your power only comes through submission. It only comes through submission to the Holy Spirit. That submission is your peace. You will not have peace if you do not have the Holy Spirit, and you will not, you will not act appropriately if you do not seek the Holy Spirit. Always keep peace on your mind. Always be the one that tries to make peace. That's what the Lord tells us to do anyway. He says that we should be peacemakers. We shouldn't always go and be the we shouldn't be the ones that's going trying to get everything lit. Trying to be trying to be the one to create the chaos. That's not the part that we should play because while you're doing that, you're missing the important parts. Yeah. And you're sabotaging your own self, like Jay said, you're sabotaging your own blessings. Sabotaging your own blessings. Don't be an Esau. No. Do not be an Esau. And every time, every time you look up and you see yourself in this situation, you better thank Esau. Right. And when you thank Esau, you better ask God to get you out of your Esau season and help you to understand how to stay out of your Esau season. Because it's one thing you can get out of it, but then your tail can walk right on back into it because those things that are familiar tend to stay and linger. And so if it stay and linger, then you got a whole nother problem. You need to go through surgery. Come on. Oh, to get it removed. To get it removed. That's going deep. This gotta be a whole nother, a whole nother podcast. It's set to say it's gonna be entitled Haters. You know how we do these titles, girl. Haters. And just leave it at that. Yes, nothing else. Haters. Haters. We're sick of y'all. We sick of y'all. But the flip part about the flip um side about it is we've been y'all before in some way, form, or fashion, maybe not the same way. Everybody has failed. Because everybody has failed. So guess what Jessica's podcast is gonna do? Guess what your cousin's gonna do? Okay. We're gonna help you, WWYG, to get you out of your East Off season. That's it. Because we're not walking in that. No, we're not walking in there. And the first thing you do is need to help, you need to hold yourself accountable. That's right. And you need to lay out not to not to everybody else around you, but to your father. That's it. God, this is what I deal with. This is what I have done. I need help. I don't get it. I don't understand why I'm this way. I don't know why I do the things that I do. I don't know why I expect all these things out of other people, and they don't even know that I expect that out of them. That's crazy. That's that's psycho. But still, it's like you need to sit with yourself and get yourself together and do the work. Do the work to get yourself better. Do the work, do the work. I tell you this, and this is the one last thing that I'm gonna say um concerning um concerning not having control and and and just operating on the on the wrong side of the reaction, operating on the wrong side. So I'll say this for that person, at some point in between us doing the things that we do that are wrong, there is a there is a fine line where we actually have the opportunity to think about what it is that we do before we do the wrong. Don't cross the line. Do not cross the line. And the reason I'm telling you, do not cross the line is think about is it worth it? Is it worth it just for you to have that fleshly um satisfaction? That fleshly satisfaction is only going to be for a moment, and it could gain you hell in an eternity. But if you choose to stay on the right side of the fence, how you handle that situation could be based off of how God has planned or intended to bless you, but now you forfeited your blessing because you decided to cross the line. Don't cross the line, don't cross the line. Please don't cross the line. It's not worth a reaction. Instead, use good action. Use good action. Soft voices, turn away wrath. Be a peacemaker. Y'all. Period. That's it. That's all that's all I got for today. That's it. And that's done. All right, y'all. Well, make the right decision. Yes. Make the right decision is all we got to say. You better think. John doing me. You better think. Yeah, we ain't doing that. I'm saying just think. Yes. All right, y'all. So we done came down to the end of the road. We at the end of the street now, y'all. So, Tina. Jay. Back in the day. When I was young, I'm not a kid anymore. But some days I see them when she was a kid again. We got you know we just gotta throw it in there. You already know. We just gotta throw it in there. What show back in the day? So mom back in the day, this is okay. I don't know if we talked about it last time, but yo, the television um shows that I used to grow up on. Like no, I miss them. I know we miss mention Sesame Street, but like I got more stuff, y'all. Like, do y'all remember um TGI Friday? When they used to have that block. Oh, yeah, Family Matters. Family Matters, Full House. Was it perfect strangers starting to come out at the end? Oh, I love them. What it was another one in between there. Was it um Step by Step. Step by step. I don't even know how that came to be. Hey, a different kind of uh in a different kind of way. What's that a gather? I can't remember all of it. Anyway yes, that used to be my block girl. I don't care what you was doing. Wasn't it Friday? Yeah, it was Friday. Yes, because it ain't got his Friday. Yeah, baby, at Friday at what was it, eight o'clock? Yeah, baby, you was at the house. Yeah, it was you was ready. You weren't on no telephone. No telephone, no nothing. People knew not to call you because your show was on. Right. What you calling me for? Right. And got his Friday on. Who got time to talk to you? I mean, and you remember in Winchester when he was um Stephanie? Baby, when he turned Stephon on, I said, but not nobody say nothing to me because I got a whole crush. Well, he could be smooth so only a smooth later. Baby, I said, uh-uh, don't mess with me. Well, he had Laura turned upside down. Home girl just didn't have control of herself with him. And then and then she ended up just falling in love with good old Steve. Sure no. She needed Steve over it all. Ain't that so? Steve. Little conk is all Myrtle from Belat C T. Myrtle. Murder Article. Myrtle from uh, no, what was the other one? Um Aunt Altuna. Those were the good shows. Now the shows, like the shows nowadays are they're all reality shows, and they don't even have sitcoms like that anymore. I'm back. I do too. We learned so much by looking at sitcoms. We did. Like different life stories and issues and things like that and how to deal with them. Because, you know, a lot of us don't have um, some of some of us, especially now with this generation, don't have a lot of teachers for our kids as they're growing up. Maybe their parents are younger, they don't know. They don't, they don't, you know, know exactly what good advice to give or whatever. But if you watched a good show that dealt with that stuff, then you would know how to navigate the Cosby show. Oh man, I love the Cosby. Girl, like that was the first time that I saw a rich black family. Right, right. I was like, oh yeah, I can do this.

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Right.

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That's probably when everybody was like, I'm gonna be a doctor. Right. No, I'm gonna be a lawyer. You know? Like, but you something about that though, those were the TV shows that molded our imaginations for what could be. Just like you said, it molded us for what could actually be. It burnt black professionals. It did. It truly did. Because otherwise it might have not been seen as it to be um obtainable. Yeah, a different world made me want to go to college. What I'm trying to tell you, like, yeah, I'm gonna go to school. I'm I'm gonna go to college, I'm gonna, and but beforehand, like before, you know, shows like that, before shows like that came about, like, did you even really think? No. You think you think about school? Yeah, I mean, because it was just more or less like, I don't know, you just get up, you go to school, whatever. And like for me, it was just like, get up, you go to school, and sometime or another, I'm gonna graduate, and I don't know what life's gonna look like after I graduate. Yeah, so we went from good times to different worlds. Yeah, because good times was like get out there, work, make your money, do what you need to do, keep your head above water, yeah, all of that. And then with that next, you know, well, a couple of decades after, but either way, them next decades was like, no, we empower. We we professionals, we about to go out here and do this thing, like we're about to make some money. We look away, yeah. So put your put your suit on, right? Because we can do it, yeah. Put your makeup on. We can do it, yeah. We can do it at one point. So, yes, like them were some good shows. Yeah, um, I even think about Punky Brewster. Oh, I used to love that show. I love that show. Hannah Montana. Alf. Alf. I used to love those shows. The Jeffersons. Did you watch the Jefferson and What's Happening? Yes.

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Oh gosh, rerun.

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Rerun. I could not wait to see that after school. What's happening came on after school every day in the afternoons, and I could not wait to get home to see that. What's happening? I knew it was coming on. I just wanted to see, yeah, D was so rude. Oh my goodness. But I wanted to see Rerun dance. And I would be so mad if he didn't dance in that episode. Um, look, and what what the thing about that is that he coined that to the point that nowadays we still try to do that. Yeah. We still try to run it. And can't do it like he did it. Cannot, cannot. With his with his um, with his fluffy self. So yeah, that's my back in that. What you want, Tina? Okay, that's it. Okay, Jay. So then, since we're on this television. So let's talk about the game shows that were out then. What was that? The pyramid? What is it? Oh gosh, I used to love that show. I used to love that show. And and even still to this day that's still running, you still have Wheel of Fortune and Jeffrey. It's changed a little bit because, you know, people, but it's still the same exact thing. That's a lot. And even back in the day, there was um Deal or No Deal. Yeah. I didn't, I never watched it that day. I ain't watched the old Deal or No Deal. I watched the new one with the with um How We Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, you know what? What is the name of that show? What's the name of that show where it would have it was a game show, and they would flip all these different um, all these different images, and you would have to match them. You'd have to match them. It was like a matching game. A match, um, yeah. A matching match. Was it a match? No, no, no. I can't remember the name of it, but I know you had to remember where it was. Yeah, and you had to match it. And you would win whatever the prize was. So once you matched it, you would win those prizes. But there was this little demon that would come up every time you get it wrong. If you get it wrong, was it what was it called? I don't know, but I do remember um whammy, whammy. It was a whammy. That's what would happen if you didn't get the uh the match correctly, or when you got ready to pick. Was it the amount of money or something you were getting? And then we did it, okay. And you lose money. I used to watch it, but I used to watch the game for network too when I got older. Yeah, yeah. And I watched all them OD. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's some new stuff that's out now. Some of it is good, some of it's good, but OD is golden. OD is golden. All right, y'all. Well, this was our show today, honey, and we cannot believe it, but it is episode 22. Oh, so we thank y'all, we love y'all, and look, we want to talk to you all. We keep telling y'all, let's talk, let's engage. Hit us on the WWYD, get an ideum, send us comments, all of that, let's have a conversation. Yes. Tell us what you think. All of that. Tell us what you think. Like, even going back to other episodes, if you you listen, you know, you listened into the episode and something, some type of situation came up, and it was relevant to what what you heard on the episode. Like, let's talk about it. Engage with us, talk to us. Like I said before, we do not bite. We do not bite. We talk, but we don't bite. I know. I used to bite my nails. We just talk it off, and that's it. Period. Okay. And that's it. But that sells it. That sells it. So what we're gonna do, Tina. We are going to live, laugh, and love. Until next time, guys. Say it, Tina. We out, we out.